Dear Kimberly Kay,

Kimberly,
Wow, since I am a guy this is REALLY HARD, but I'll give it a shot. First I'll start with a cliche: All the true beauty is on the inside. Well I'm sure you've heard that one to many times, so I'll try something. This may sound kind of harsh, but it's an answer that is probably true. For the pudgy part; excercise and eat healthier, honest to God. Most likely it will make a difference. For the glasses; if you can afford contacts you could try those, but if not, people will just have to deal with it. Acne; cutting back on greasy food, which will also help your weight, but also the acne. I think Clearasil(if that's how you spell it) works ok. You could try that. If people still have a problem with that don't talk to them. Screw 'em. Well I hope that helped.

Grey Sanders
~sincerely yours~




Original Question:

Hi! I'm a bit pudgy and my height just adds to that image. I always feel self concious when I'm talking face to face with someone for the first time because I'm afraid they might judge me by my appearance before the conversation even begins. It also doesn't help that I have severe acne and wear thick glasses. My family isn't rich and I can't afford to wear brand name clothes. I was wondering what I could do to help improve my outward appearance so I don't feel so akward at social gatherings.

Jillian,
Wow, this is an interesting situation. Hmm, let me think. Well if you truely enjoy chorous go for it. Just don't make it a big deal. Just go to class, and afterword don't go bragging. If someone asks you about the class say it was good, how bout yours. If they give you a hard time then screw them - ehem. Pardon my language. Anyways, this one was hard, but whether they approve or not, don't turn down the offer. Hope that helped.
Grey


original question....
To Mr. Sanders,
Many of my friends are very into chorus- me included. So when the chorus teacher offered me a position in which I could have chorus as an elective year- round, I thought I was totally set for the upcoming year. But when my friends found out, they were upset. Not mad, but upset. Upset they didn't get offered the same. I felt bad that they wouldn't be in the class with me, and I told them this. One of my friends suggested I refuse the class. Another suggested I ask the chorus teacher to have them in the year-round class as well. Neither of these will work. This is a great opportunity for me, so I can't not do it. And I don't want to be a pain by demanding anything from the teacher. But I still don't want my friends to feel left out. What do I do?
Thanks,
Jillian

Kathryn,
Well the last thing you want to do is pretend like the rumor doesn't exist. You also don't want to suggest that you like him. You also don't want to make it real obvious that he likes you. This one is hard because everyone is a little bit different. If I was the guy I'd like to know the truth. If you can in any way find out the truth, then let me know. I will then continue on either a, tell him you don't like him. b, you just want to forget it ever happened.
Hope that helped,
Grey





Original Question
Grey-I heard from someone that a guy friend of mine might like me. He's really nice but I don't like him like that, and I'm afraid that something like this could ruin our friendship. If he doesn't say anything, is it safe to go on assuming that the rumor was wrong? And if he does say something, how is the best way to say no, so that I don't hurt him?
Kathryn

Some Notes

My first two advice request went very smoothly. Thank you for actually following the directions on the advice application. Thank you for giving me feedback. From now on please no rude feedback (you are such a fruit). Yeah, no! Thank you for cooperation Michelle. I'll be happy to help anyone at any time.

Dear Michelle Cntd...

Wow, you are right, that is a toughie. But, luckily that has happened to me. If he knows then just act normal. Like I said, don't be too flirty, and don't try to make yourself sound like a wonderful girlfriend. Just be there for him when he needs is, but otherwise just be friends. When you can tell he's getting over her start to make a move. Don't be super clingy - guys need time to hang out with guys - but dont ignore him. Just slowly start to flirt. I am kind of going throught the same thing. I don't know if he will end up liking you, but it will help keep your friendship together, and maybe even make you better friends. I wish you the best of luck.

GREY SANDERS
~sincerely yours~

Original Question

i just reread your advice on the other page and realized i made a mistake. in your advice you told me to drop subtle hints that i liked him after he got over his previous relationshionship. this might work for most, but i think my situation is slightly different. one of my friends leaked out that i liked him. he already knows. this makes me feel slightly uncomfortable talking intimately with him because i'm afraid he might think i'm worming my way in while he's still distraught. i really am a mess aren't i? thank you for helping me before, if you don't want to again, i completely understand.michelle.

Dear Michelle,

To your luck I most definitely work on relationship advice. I am going to approach this question from experience. I had trouble getting over a girl once, and I knew that several girls liked me. I wanted to move on, but none of the girls really suited me. That is until someone else came along. She liked me, but didn't make it obvious. She was there for me, but the center of our conversation was not about the girl I was getting over. If you didn't get that let me reword it:
~Support him but don't center your conversations around his old girlfriend
~Act as a friend - have fun - but treat him a little differently
~When he starts to get over her, slowly give him hints you like him
~DON'T BE CLINGY
~When you think he is ready have someone tell him that you like him - you can tell him if you want
~Don't rush anything, don't enforce that you like him too much
~Most importantly just have fun, and be a friend who is a little more
I hoped this helped. This happened to me, and I might go out with the girl who liked me. If you have any comments on this advice add a comment to this post. Don't make comments on the request page unless you need new advice. Thank you for giving me a readable question!

Grey Sanders
~sincerely yours~

Original Question:

i know this boy from cross country and he's really cute. i mean, seriously, he is adorable. i really like him a lot but he thinks of me as just a friend. i don't want to approach him because he's still dealing with his last breakup. i really don't know what i should do. HELP.michelle.

Dear Example,

This is what a letter to the advice seeker would look like. I would address the problem and give an answer. I may even give multiple ideas. Then I would sign. If I don't sign please disregard the advice, and comment immeditately. I may have just forgotten, and I will sign, but someone might have hacked my account. Please take notice.

grey sanders
~sincerely yours~

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